How to talk to your child about tutoring


Both parents and students alike can feel worried or on edge about starting tutoring. Left unattended, that nervousness can become dread or resentment. We’ve found in our time at TeacherFindr that successful tutoring relationships begin with a crucial conversation between parent and child. Here are some tips for talking to your child about tutoring that will help navigate those nerves and set you up for a productive experience.

Practice positive framing

For some of us, even the word tutoring carries negative connotations. Needless to say, that baggage should be left behind. Before you talk to your child, cast aside phrases such as “you are falling behind in school” or “we don’t want you to fail.”  Instead, remind yourself how you want to see your child become even better in school and tutoring will provide them with with a truly personalized learning experience. Opening the conversation by expressing your support for your child’s continued success will go a long way towards successful tutoring.

Explain the routine

After-school time is a precious resource, and your child will appreciate knowing when, where, and for how long they will meet with their tutor. Make sure your child understands that tutoring is not a chore or punishment, but an opportunity to learn at their own pace in a way that best suits them.

Listen to their perspective

Ask your child to explain in their own words where they need help. Even if they can’t pin down where they’re struggling, children know which teachers they’ve “clicked” with best. They also probably have a good sense of what activities help them learn, and a trained, certified teacher will know how to work those activities into tutorials. Encouraging your child to speak candidly about their experiences in school will not only help set the table for a great first tutorial, but will also help build rapport among parent, student, and tutor.

Remain patient

As we all know, conversations with children don’t always go according to plan. Take a deep breath and remember to stay positive. If your child insists they don’t need help, then frame tutoring as an opportunity to try something new in a 1-on-1 environment with a teacher. Moments like these are when hiring a classroom teacher as your child’s tutor pays off, since they have the patience and know-how to connect with your child and build positive momentum.

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